I really feel like giving up right now which is probably the only reason I'm posting this. My girlfriend is refusing to live with me although she says she wants to but still refuses to due to her parents who are never nice to her, insult her, always make her depressed, don't let me and her ever see each other and don't ever let us even speak to each other. I really don't know what to do right now, I simply can't stand it anymore.
I have justy one advice, never force someone to live with you even when it seems like there is no reason why she would not live with you it should be her choice alone. You can talk about the situation and what bothers you and decied for yourself if it's worth it. I wanted to live together with my Bf for years while he would not and at some point I just decieded to go on with life and just go after my dreams. If he was the right person for me he would eventually follow anyway and he did even if it was a year later maybe it was for the better.
*hugs*
I do agree with that but she does actually want to live with me, she just feels bad for her parents even thought they don't even treat her like a human or living being in any way, most of the time they don't even feed her so she usually goes days with hardly eating any food. So it's more that I need help with finding a way to help someone not feel guilty.
first of all. how old are you both and in wich country do you both living? for so long I don't know that. I can't give any advice...
Well we live in the UK and if I give you our age then you will simply say you both are not ready and need to grow up.
I had a similar situation once where my partner was not allowed to see me much. The relation stood for 9 months but after that she was forced to break up with me wich was a pain i never felt before. I can relate to how you feel...
Things like this are tough and making a choice is never easy, but it is you who knows what is best to do for the both of you in this situation.
Things like this are tough and making a choice is never easy, but it is you who knows what is best to do for the both of you in this situation.
It seems forcing this through will only cause later tension between her and her parents, maybe not rush it through and plan it so everyone is happy or there cpuld be regrets. Unfortuanetly age does have a bearing here, im ofc assuming your both over 18? Im not saying your even going to tell which is no problem but it makes it harder to voice a solid opinion because the bottom line is anything under that age is way too early especially with the parent issue included ( is this why they are unhappy). If she was that unhappy im sure she would leave anyway.
you don't even know me. age doesn't matter to me. for so long both of you wants eachother.